Dear First Lady/Ministry Wife
Mother’s day is a few days away. As significant as this day may be for a lot of women in your church, it is also very painful for others. Here’s something to keep in mind as we approach Mother’s day:
Not all women in your church are mothers and motherhood is not the only way to an abundant and fulfilling life.
As much as I don’t want to take away from honoring the mothers in our church I also realize that not every woman looks forward to Mother’s Day.Things can get very difficult for some women in your church when Mother’s day rolls around, I know of women that make it a point to stay home from church on Mother’s Day.
- Not every mother will receive acknowledgement from her family on Mother’s Day. This might make her feel like she is not appreciated.
- Not every mother will feel that she deserves to be honored due to her own shortcomings or insecurities.
- There are those who are grieving over what they once had. Many people are dealing with the loss of a mother OR a child.
- Many grieve over hope that they had and was lost. Many women have had miscarriages and Mother’s day becomes another painful reminder of what could have been.
- Many people grieve over what they never had. There are others in your church who could be trying to conceive but cannot.
- Some mothers might have given their child up for adoption and might be battling with guilt.
Mother’s Day in itself can be hurtful for others. So as a First lady, how do we deal with this?
We turn to Gods Word!
Acknowledge their hurts. Most people who are hurting do so in silence. They will endure the church service that is focused on Mothers but it’s not easy. Let’s be open and acknowledge that many of us feel pain when we talk about motherhood. People are encouraged when they don’t feel forgotten or overlooked
To the Mother who has lost a child, my heart breaks for you. My mother’s heart knows no pain like what you feel but I trust God that he will heal your heart. Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”
To the barren woman, Your heart probably breaks when you see another pregnant woman or you hear about another abandoned child. You might feel that God has forgotten about you and doesn’t see your pain but rest assured that “God sees” (Genesis 16:13). Continue to “…Draw near to the throne of Grace that we may receive Mercy and find Grace to help in times of need” Hebrews 4:16
As the church, we must find ways to honor the childless woman for all the contributions they make to the church and to the world.
All women are not mothers. We honor women who are mothers by recognizing just how singular and significant that particular role is. And we honor women who aren’t mothers by recognizing that a woman doesn’t have to be a mother to contribute meaningfully to the world
I pray that the Lord will guide you on how best to serve the women in your church during Mother’s Day and find ways to honor the mothers while being sensitive to those who hurt.
The role of a pastor’s wife is probably one of the toughest roles for women today. This role is extremely demanding, tiring, self sacrificing,and emotionally draining. So if you as a pastor’s wife are feeling s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-d this mother’s day, Remember what Hebrews 6:10 says “God doesn’t miss anything! He knows perfectly well all the love you’ve shown Him by helping needy Christians, and that you keep at it.” (msg)